Common Marital Issues Which Can Lead to Divorce

 Posted on April 06, 2018 in Divorce

No one enters into a marriage expecting their relationship to end someday. When a marriage breaks down, spouses are often lost and confused as to how they got to this point, with many of them proclaiming, “Neither of us believes in divorce!” However, divorce is not an event that “just happens.” Typically, it is the result of a series of missteps which bring a partnership to a point of irreconcilable differences. Sometimes, both spouses see this coming as the inevitable next step. In other situations, the decision is seen as coming from “out of the blue,” leaving the non-initiating spouse reeling and questioning what they missed. Here are a few factors which can commonly lead to the breakdown of a marriage, and to a potential divorce:

Little or No Conflict Resolution

Every time you and your partner disagree, a constructive conversation is vital to resolve the dispute. When one person walks away to “cool down,” and the issue goes unresolved, a piece of the relationship’s communication foundation cracks. Couples who “never argue” do their relationship a disservice by not discussing their issues. Soon, they may find themselves unable to address their concerns at all, with this inability driving a wedge between them.

Emotional Disengagement

Do you remember when you were first dating, and you worried about saying the right things? Often, this fear falls by the wayside as a relationship progresses. But each time someone’s emotional needs are ignored, a piece of the emotional layer of marriage is chipped away. If this happens often enough, eventually one party may emotionally “unplug” from the relationship.

Increased Activity Outside of the Marriage

Once problems with trust and communication arise, a relationship can become boring. Real conversations cease, activities together stop, and the two people become little more than roommates. Spouses might begin to pour themselves into their children, their careers, or their outside friendships to find emotional satisfaction. This situation is also when extramarital affairs tend to arise, since partners have already become accustomed to fulfilling their needs elsewhere.

Marriage Is Hard Work

The marital connection is salvageable at any stage, as long as both parties are willing to focus on each other and restore the communication that was there during the early stages of their relationship. However, if you or your spouse feel that divorce is the best solution, it is a good idea to discuss the decision with an experienced divorce lawyer. The Law Office of Vincent C. Machroli, P.C. has over three decades of experience helping couples in situations like yours reach a positive resolution to their divorce. Let us help you put the past behind you and move on with your life. Contact a Hillside, IL divorce attorney today at 708-449-7400 to schedule your free initial consultation.

Sources:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/divorce-grownups/200911/the-six-signals-divorce

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/lindsey-ellison/5-signs-of-a-bad-marriage_b_6574616.html