Things to Consider Before Getting Remarried to Your Ex-Spouse

 Posted on February 09, 2018 in Post-Decree Matters

It is not uncommon that following a divorce, newly single spouses seek companionship again. After experiencing the intimacy and partnership of marriage, individuals are equipped with a deeper understanding of themselves and their interests, morals, and overall life goals. Having experienced the benefits of a close relationship, marriage becomes an option once more for many divorcees. 

It may be interesting to discover that many previously married couples find that love again with each other, even after they have gone through contentious courtroom divorce battles. However, it is best to proceed with caution when considering remarriage to a former spouse, as post-decree concerns may put a damper on a future wedding.

The Grass Was Not Greener

While there are no official statistics indicating how many divorced couples later decide to remarry each other, the topic is becoming more commonly discussed than in previous decades. Social media has made it easier for people to stay in communication with each other, even if a significant amount of time has elapsed since their divorce. 

Another factor which may contribute to this trend is that the divorce process often breaks down barriers. Spouses see both the good and the bad; the figurative cards are all on the table. After being single for a length of time, many people realize that the problem was not necessarily with their spouse, but that marriage is complicated. Having recognized their own unique set of quirks and the issues which led to the end of their marriage, they may decide to give their relationship with their former spouse another try.

Move Slowly

Having been married to each other previously does not mean it is a good idea to jump right back into a relationship with your ex-spouse. Consider that the rate of divorce for remarriages is twice as high as for first-time marriage. Also, if you have children together, think of how a second divorce may affect them. If you do still wish to proceed, here are a few tips for making your remarriage successful:

• Consult a marriage counselor.
• Thoroughly investigate the reason for separation.
• Admit your role in the initial marriage’s demise.
• Keep communication lines open and honest.

Post-Decree Considerations

The divorce decree between you does not just “go away” because you have decided to marry each other again. For example, you may have waived your right to inherit property from the other spouse, and you will need to address this in your estate planning. Other aspects to consider are spousal maintenance payments, child support obligations, and whether you will want to create a prenuptial agreement which will detail what will happen if you divorce a second time. 

If you are considering rekindling a relationship with or remarrying your ex-spouse, it is essential that you consult an attorney. While love may heal wounds between two partners, it does not erase the court-ordered documents from your divorce. At the Law Office of Vincent C. Machroli, P.C., we understand your situation, and we will utilize over three decades of experience and detailed knowledge of the law to make sure you understand your rights and work with you to address the legal ramifications of your remarriage. Contact a Hillside, IL family law attorney today at 708-449-7400 for a free consultation.

Sources:

https://www.thespruce.com/is-a-second-time-around-realistic-2300932

https://www.alternet.org/sex-amp-relationships/why-do-divorced-couples-remarry-and-it-more-common-now-ever