Posted on August 13, 2018 in Allocation of Parental Responsibilities

Many of the most significant concerns at the end of a marriage revolve around the future of the children. These worries often become so great that couples frequently stay in a unhealthy relationship to avoid any discomfort that the children may encounter. However, recent studies have shown that children of divorced parents are resilient, and they can often quickly overcome even the most difficult situations. Often, the adults are more frightened than the children due to the adults’ fear of the unknown. To help alleviate those concerns, we will answer some of the more common questions about child custody, which is now legally called the allocation of parental responsibilities in Illinois.

Will Both Parents Get to Spend Time With Children?

Unless the court finds evidence indicating that the children would be in some kind of dangerous situation, both parents are typically allotted parenting time (formerly known as visitation) with their children. A judge will take into consideration the best interests of the children when determining the allocation of parental responsibilities and parenting time. 

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 Posted on July 30, 2018 in Post-Decree Matters

The arrangements agreed upon during a dissolution of marriage, such as the allocation of parental responsibilities or obligations to pay child support or spousal maintenance, will continue per the decree until either a child becomes an adult, or until a specified end date, or indefinitely. However, people’s lives change, and what may work well for both parties during the divorce proceedings may no longer be practical a few years later. Also, an ex-spouse may refuse to comply with the divorce decree. In these situations, you may want to consider modifying or enforcing the divorce decree.

Enforcement of the Court Decree

A divorce decree is an official court order that governs the parenting time with children, child support payments, alimony payments, the division of property, and the division of debt. This order is legally binding, which means any violation has legal repercussions. If your ex is not following the terms of your divorce decree, there are options available to ensure compliance. Methods used in Illinois to compel former spouses to comply include:

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 Posted on July 11, 2018 in Allocation of Parental Responsibilities

For divorced parents, sharing parental responsibilities during the summer months is often tricky, despite the relaxed, school-free schedule. Summer is a prime time for vacations, transitions, and being with family. However, the short time period for summer vacation often makes it harder for parents and children to get into a regular routine. Just as soon as you seem to get a good rhythm going, school is back in session, and a new routine must begin. Although they are necessary, changes in routine can often be difficult for kids and parents alike. These tips can help you lessen the anxiety for yourself and your children during the summer:

Avoid Doing Too Much

Although kids seem to have a never-ending supply of energy, they do look forward to the relaxed days of summer. Many parents seek to keep the kids entertained with camps, trips, and other exciting activities. What children do not often tell you is that they are just as happy sitting on the sofa with the family. Enjoy the slow moments while you have them; school will be back in session before you know it.

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 Posted on June 27, 2018 in Divorce

Many couples choose to go to counseling when their marriage is in trouble. Often, counseling/therapy is a last-ditch effort to save the marriage before considering divorce. What many couples do not know is that most counselors/therapists will never persuade couples one way or another when it comes to the ultimate decision about divorce. Whether the marriage survives or not is ultimately in the hands of the couple itself. The only job of the counselor is to help both parties become more in tune with the needs of the other and build communication skills. 

What if the Couple Is Miserable?

Even if a couple is very unhappy in their marriage, a marriage therapist will typically keep their opinion about the relationship to themselves. To actually suggest divorce would raise some ethical and moral concerns, which is why most therapists try not to push the couple either way. Sometimes, one marriage counselor is not enough. The therapist might say, “I have done everything I can for you,” and the couple may then choose to see another therapist, who might be able to offer new techniques which may be key factors in turning the marriage around for the better. 

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 Posted on June 18, 2018 in Divorce

Your marriage is coming to an end. You are about to begin a new chapter of your life, and you would prefer to start it without a mountain of divorce costs. Although the thought of a do-it-yourself divorce has crossed your mind, you know that doing so may complicate matters, drag out the process and often can result in additional, future litigation. Furthermore, if your partner has an attorney, and you decide to represent yourself, the judge may never hear “your side of the story,” and you may lose everything. If you know that having legal divorce help is your best option, but you are wary of the cost, try these budget-friendly divorce tips:

File for an Uncontested Divorce

If you and your spouse agree on most of the significant issues, you may benefit from filing for an uncontested divorce. Uncontested does not mean that your divorce will be free from disagreements; rather, it means that you can resolve them outside of court, allowing you to move more quickly through the court process to finalize your divorce. In an uncontested divorce, you should be sure to address the following issues:

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 Posted on May 29, 2018 in Divorce

Every couple that gets involved in a divorce case has varied expectations as to what the process is going to be like. Some people have prior insights obtained from friends and relatives, while others have no insights at all. The truth is, however, that every divorce is unique, and there is no foolproof method to predict how a break-up will happen. The only factor common to every divorce is the outcome: one married life becomes two separate lives. 

Going through a divorce is almost always difficult. Those who successfully dissolve a marriage earn a great deal of knowledge in the process that they often wish they had before the divorce began. Many divorced individuals will then happily pass on their knowledge to others who may be facing divorce. Here are a few of the best tips from those who have already been where you may be today:

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 Posted on May 14, 2018 in Divorce

Social media is ostensibly meant to bring people together, not tear them apart. However, in recent years, these sites seem to have accomplished the opposite for many couples, as there are studies which indicate that sites such as Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram may be a contributing factor to divorce rates. 

Although most people begin using social media accounts with positive intentions, these apps can start consuming a high percentage of a person’s day. The average American checks their social media 17 times each day. Although this statistic is much lower than many other countries, Americans utilize the most mobile data on a consistent basis, using an average of 4.7 hours daily per person. You may also be surprised to learn that adults ages 25 to 54 are the most frequent culprits when it comes to compulsive social media checking. All of this time we spend attached to our phones can take away from valuable family time and can give too much of our attention to the lives of others. These sites are now commonly cited as a factor leading to the demise of a relationship.

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 Posted on May 01, 2018 in Divorce

Social media is everywhere. Over the last decade, social media usage has skyrocketed to over 90% of the population. From opinionated tweets, to eye-catching photography on Instagram, to everyday stories on Facebook, everyone has something to say. While this is great for building businesses and maintaining relationships, sometimes not everything is meant to be shared with the world. Poorly timed posts have resulted in job loss, lawsuits, and even arrests. Likewise, anyone considering divorce should carefully think about who may be watching.

Admissibility in Court

Anything that is available for public knowledge is admissible in court. If you are going through a divorce or another family law dispute, you should strongly consider either deactivating your social media accounts or, at the very least, changing your privacy settings. Disabling the account prevents all access, including the potential sharing of your information with your spouse by mutual friends. The information would only be inadmissible if obtained by illegal or deceitful methods.

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 Posted on April 23, 2018 in Paternity / Parentage

Accuracy is essential when it comes to the paternity of a child. What the future may hold for a child is often at stake, in addition to any pending marital, custody, or support issues. An accurate test enables the child to have a bond with a paternal figure, a relationship that is proven to have numerous benefits for the child even after they enter into adulthood. However, before you grab a paternity test at your local drug store, you will want to consider the accuracy rate of such testing.

How Paternity Tests Work

During the conception of a child, the first cell contains DNA which consists of a series of chromosomes, half from the mother and half from the father. This cell divides, and then those cells divide continuously to eventually form the child. In fact, those cells continue to divide to create new cells throughout the entire life of the child, which is how new skin is formed, and more. 

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 Posted on April 06, 2018 in Divorce

No one enters into a marriage expecting their relationship to end someday. When a marriage breaks down, spouses are often lost and confused as to how they got to this point, with many of them proclaiming, “Neither of us believes in divorce!” However, divorce is not an event that “just happens.” Typically, it is the result of a series of missteps which bring a partnership to a point of irreconcilable differences. Sometimes, both spouses see this coming as the inevitable next step. In other situations, the decision is seen as coming from “out of the blue,” leaving the non-initiating spouse reeling and questioning what they missed. Here are a few factors which can commonly lead to the breakdown of a marriage, and to a potential divorce:

Little or No Conflict Resolution

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